Success in life is not accidental. Neither is success in marriage; it is planned for.
Your marriage will not be a success simply because you exchanged vows
before the Lord, as important as that is. It's very akin to salvation.
After you received Christ by confessing His Lordship over your life, He
went ahead to tell you certain things you must do to work out your
salvation. In the same way, you must be intentional about doing the
things that will strengthen your marriage, else it will fail in just a
matter of time.
Fight to stay intentional rather than get casual about your marriage.
Intentionally pay compliments, give, spend time together. Get
intentional about giving and receiving love, about submission.
Intentionally stay in shape (especially if your spouse minds) and dress
well. Get intentional about being tender, understanding and caring. Get
intentional about praying and carrying out spiritual exercises together.
This is the reason many start out well but have a hard time keeping the spark in their marriage.
True we don't have high divorce rates in Africa but many a couple have
become flat mates because they weren't intentional about keeping the
romance in their relationship. These things don't just happen.
by keeping an open-mouthed relationship. Talk about the things your
spouse is doing that you want them to stop, the things you want them to
start and even those you want them to continue.
That's how lasting friendships are built.
If you've not been intentional about some of these things, you can
begin from now on. It's part of working out your marriage with godly
reverence while you put the devil where he belongs, under your feet.