The flip side to selfishness is tagged in a more politically correct term, self-love. So they say, selfishness is a vice but self-love is a virtue. Self-love should make you do things for yourself, protect yourself, love yourself and when you have to make a choice ensure it's informed by self-love. Someone said God's not against self-love but selfishness and I agreed, until recently.
Let's look at a few examples from the scriptures
Abraham was asked to leave his family (Genesis 12:1)
Isaac was asked to stay in the land of famine (Genesis 26:2)
Ruth was inspired to stay with Naomi (Ruth 1:16)
Esther dared to go before the king at the risk of death (Esther 4:16)
Job was asked to curse God (Job 2:9)
Peter, James, John and the other disciples had to abandon their careers (Mark 1:18)
Jesus our Lord, was given no other option besides a criminal's crucifixion. (Hebrews 5:8)
These all acted in defiance to the principles of self-love that is preached everywhere today.
Self-love is the foundation of these last-days misnomer of homosexuality and same-sex marriage that we see in our world.
It has made humans embark on transgender surgeries
It makes people cheat on their spouses without restraint, and has destroyed countless marriages and even great relationships
It's the basis for the most destructive addictions people suffer from today.
Self-love is not of God, how could it be, when we were not made for ourselves?
If God made us, then it must be that He made us to Know Him, Love Him and Serve Him (Matthew 22:37-38)
That self-love is destructive and of the devil becomes easy to
understand when we look into how Satan emerged. His self-love corrupted
him into wanting to become like the Most High.
If you knew the
millions of lives connected to you, you would know that to make
decisions on the grounds of self-love is sheer mediocrity.
you catch yourself wanting to do things inspired by self-love, ask
instead, what is the light of God's word concerning this matter?
man was not made to pursue his happiness but to please the One who made
him. That's where true and lasting happiness comes from.