You're the only one who can say YES to you ALL THE TIME. If you keep saying NO to your unfolding ideas, then ALL hope is lost.
People will say YES to you only after you've said YES to yourself. They may not be a TOTAL 100% YES but your YES will be just enough to take you ALL the WAY.
Benny's heart
On Life, On Love, On Choices, On Dreams
Thursday, 31 March 2016
SAYING YES!
Monday, 30 November 2015
On Life: The pain's only temporary
When we face difficult times, maybe the loss of a loved one, a natural disaster, a horrifying saga or the loss of love, etc. the tendency is to think that the pain's gonna last forever.
Yesterday, a Doc friend explained to me the struggles a baby goes through at birth. How contractions make them uncomfortable inside such that they just want to get out. How their skulls contract and expand at birth. How they look for their first breath after birth and cry as a sign of joy when they find it. She said to me, 'babies look so tender and frail but they are very strong'.
Going back, that's you some decades ago. You made it out and have continued to make it through life. You've outlasted the challenges, that's why you're reading this. If they outlasted you, you'd be 6ft beneath by now.
Don't say 'but Benny you don't know how big this new challenge is'. My friend it's not so different from the others for a man's oppositions always are commensurate to his ability. That's what my bible says.
So cheer up and let a smile through for the pain you feel right now is only TEMPORARY.
#temporarypain
#thistoowillpass
#youwillstillbestanding
#bennysavedbygrace
Tuesday, 29 September 2015
ON LIFE: SUCCESS AND FAILURE
Tuesday, 28 July 2015
On Choices: DEALING WITH TEMPTATION (ADULTERY)
Being faithful to your spouse is a choice that starts with a decision. It doesn’t happen suddenly. You don’t get there by praying or fasting (although these may help). You don’t even arrive at marital integrity by confessing and repenting. Unfaithfulness in marriage begins with the idea that it is an OPTION. An option people consider when their spouse 'isn’t available', close by, ‘no longer attractive enough’, too busy, always tired, or any of those pathetic excuses people use in self-defense. When you are unfaithful to your spouse, it has the same effect of allowing a tiny hole on your clothes without stitching it up. It opens the door to more difficult issues in your marriage that affect your finances, kids, spirituality, the future of your family and much more.
Job was the wealthiest man that lived in his day, yet he would not be so intoxicated with his wealth to think of adultery as his pass-time like men do today. The man was actually afraid of the thought, no wonder he had the kind of life he had. If you only knew what adultery has caused families; how it has destroyed estates, ruined innocent children’s lives and shattered hearts in untold dimensions, you will look away from that temptation and make a DECISION.
Here’s how you can do that… submit yourself to the Lordship of God’s word, resist the devil and he will flee from you.
While you work at it remember, Nothing and no one has power over you that you did not give to them.
#SMF
Wednesday, 22 July 2015
On Life: To the Single Ladies and sundry- The V doesn’t mean as much
As ladies, we are wont to desire men who have the V, tall, dark, handsome, etc. It all falls in the list right?
Well here’s God’s poem describing the Buffalo’s strength;
“Will the wild buffalo condescend to serve you, volunteer to spend the night in your barn?
Can you imagine hitching your plow to a buffalo and getting him to till your fields?
He’s hugely strong, yes, but could you trust him, would you dare turn the job over to him?
You wouldn’t for a minute depend on him, would you, to do what you said when you said it? (Job 39:9-12 Msg)
Consider the Buffalo and learn wisdom. He’s hugely strong, yet cannot be trusted. Dear lady, it’s time to shred that 'list' and ask God for His perfect will to be done in your life. It's the safest place.
#Matchosdontalwayswinbattles’.
#SMF
Monday, 20 July 2015
On Life: Dealing with difficulty; a Lesson from Job
Job worshiped God for loosing everything? An anomaly of some kind to the human mind, but the wisdom of God in truth. When we face dire impossible situations, our first response usually is to whine and murmur and complain to those around. Talking about it helps for sure, but you need to be sure the person you're talking to can help.
There's a better recipe; I recommend Job's path. You may not feel like it but that's when you've really begun to walk by faith. It is at that point worship becomes truly a sacrifice and an act of faith towards God with whom all things are possible.
Don't talk to people about the challenge. Talk to God in worship for He knows and already created the way out for you ever before you got there.
Thursday, 2 July 2015
On Choices: Marriage will not Complete you
If what you mean when you say this, is that marriage will complete you, make you perfect, you're in for surprises because you see, marriage is your first test at sharing that life (you thought was incomplete) with someone else. So even the incomplete person you thought you were will now be shared with your spouse.
So here's what happens; She came in expecting to be completed and he came in expecting to be completed and both of them were waiting for the other. The idea of being cheated comes from the feeling that one is giving more than they are getting. That's the beginning of sorrows for many marriages.
Marriage does not complete people. Single or married, you cannot know completeness until you know the One who is completeness Himself and embrace what He's done to make you COMPLETE. He says 'you are complete in Me' (Colosians 2:10) and this has nothing to do with marital status. Christ is the One who makes us complete, not marriage.
To be continued...
#SMF